Up until last week I had a serious case of post-holiday blues. I had such an amazing time in Fuerteventura. I refocused and kick started my 2018 training program. But just like that, I was brought back to reality! Long days of training in the sunshine were replaced with long hours of work; beautiful scenic bike rides were replaced with hell on earth, aka the turbo (indoor cycling). In the space of a week I went from being a leopard bounding with energy and enthusiasm to a sloth, lethargic and lacking in motivation.
It was time for a kick up the bum and some much-needed perspective.
Sometimes I forget that I’m not superwoman and reality is I’m not quite back to being able to do everything I want to do or think I should be able to do! The hardest part is accepting that this is ok and realising the only person putting pressure on myself is me. There are only 24 hours in a day and sometimes my body or mind just need a break!
At the beginning of last week, I made a conscious decision to stop being so hard on myself and it’s amazing how much better I have felt! So-what if I didn’t complete all of my planned training sessions, I’m doing a damn sight more than I thought I would be doing by now;
So-what if the scales said I hadn’t lost any weight, I feel better and hey I can fit into the jeans I couldn’t fit into two months ago; So-what if I ski down narrow tracks, 3 years ago I couldn’t ski at all!
I know I’m not the only person who is my own worst enemy, which is why I am sharing this. None of us are perfect (sorry it’s true!), we all struggle in our own ways. We live in a world where we are expected to have a life plan and always have our shit together, but sometimes this just set’s us up for disappointment. We will all mess up from time to time or fall short of being the person we want to be, but it’s ok, this is life, it’s inevitable! We all need to work on being a bit nicer to ourselves. I’m certainly not saying that we should start making excuses, that wouldn’t be cool, but we do need to recognise when we are beating ourselves up and falling into a trap of self-berating.
I am no psychologist, but below are a few really good tips to prevent a vicious circle of negative thinking. They have been taken from an infographic which was produced specifically for entrepreneurs, but I’ll definitely be applying them to my everyday life!
- Your mistakes are part of your learning.
- Don’t compare yourself to others because you aren’t them.
- There is no right way to do anything.
- Stand up for what you believe, even if it’s unpopular.
- Learn from people who criticise you.
- Accept your weaknesses as your “features”.
- Look at your past as an adventurous biography.
- Don’t underestimate your talent until you apply it 100 times.
- Every single problem you have is not unique.
- Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed.
With that I am off to ski with my husband… where I’ll be needing to apply most of the points above!
He is much better than me, but I don’t care because I am only learning.
I will fall over, but I will learn to get back up.
My technique will not be perfect, but hey what is perfect?
I will no doubt throw my toys out of the pram and claim it is normal behaviour.
My husband will criticise (he says advise) me and tell me I am being stupid, I will let it upset me for a minute, but I will quickly get over it and laugh at myself.
I will finish the day looking at how far I have progressed and I will keep going until my talent prevails!